Asking a Potential Date for a Number (<i>cont'd</i>) You're not sure if you want to get in touch, but you want to keep your options open Hmm. There's no spark, but you don't want to limit your dating options. In a perfect world, you could actually say, "I'm not sure I want to call you, but, what the heck, give me your number just in case." Of course, a line like that isn't exactly flattering. You're probably better served by expressing an interest but giving yourself an out by saying something like this: "Look, I'd really love to call you, but I'm ... (pick one) really busy at worktraveling a lotgetting out of a relationshipcovered with herpesfeeling poorly (not poor, which means you're in the midst of pecuniary strangulation)scheduled for surgeryabout to be drafted ... so if it's okay, I'd like to take your number and call you in a month or so." (Of course, if you use the herpes line, don't expect them to be too enthusiastic.) When you do this, you're not misleading … [Read more...] about Asking a Potential Date for a Number
Herpes feel like
There's that nasty little bugger. A cold sore is caused by an outbreak of the herpes simplex virus 1. ©iStockphoto.com/budgetstockphoto It's morning, and the mirror is showing you something you'd rather not see -- a cold sore. You were pretty sure you'd felt that familiar tingle on your upper lip a couple days ago, but hoped that it wasn't the prodrome -- the sensation that heralds the arrival of a cold sore. Here it is now, though, plain as day. In a few more days it will turn yellow and begin to ooze before it becomes crusty and eventually dries and fades like it was never there. You'll be able to return to your normal (and less embarrassing) life. Try not to feel too badly about it. Cold sores are very common and the virus that causes them is even more so. In the United States, 30 to 90 percent of adults have antibodies present in their bloodstream designed to ward off herpes simplex virus 1 (HSV1), the virus that causes cold sores [source: NLM]. This means that all of … [Read more...] about What do cold sores have to do with Alzheimer’s?
Cold sore outbreaks can be triggered by stress. See more pictures of skin problems. ©iStockphoto.com/BudgetStockPhoto It can happen at the worst possible times. You're stressed out about a speech you have to give at work, or maybe you're nervous about a first date, and you start to feel a prickling and burning in your lip. Soon, a hard bump that feels like a pimple forms under the skin's surface. But you know this isn't a zit; you're getting a cold sore. You're not alone. Fifteen to 30 percent of the population suffers from cold sores, or fever blisters [source: McKinley]. Soon after those first symptoms show up, red blisters appear on or around the lips. After a few days, the painful blisters break, release a clear fluid and a scab forms. Cold sore sufferers may have to deal with fever, sore throat and mouth, or swollen lymph nodes in the neck [source: Web MD]. Cold sores can be unsightly and embarrassing. As you'll learn on the next page, they're caused by the same virus … [Read more...] about Cold Sores: Causes and Treatments
I’m a 59-year-old man in good health. For basically my whole adult life, I’ve had this problem during intercourse with a woman of (1) being very quick to come and (2) having a too intense “cringey” sensation when I come. This has led to often going soft at the prospect of intercourse. This too-intense feeling makes me stop moving when I come, which is not satisfying at all. It doesn’t happen with hand jobs or oral sex—they feel fine and good. Is this a known phenomenon? And, most importantly, what can I do to get to a point where I can enjoy intercourse? This seriously messes up my enjoyment of sex and my confidence with women. One time, and only one time (out of many with a particular girlfriend), I had intercourse and it felt fine when I came, still thrusting, so I know it’s possible. I have been practicing with a Fleshlight, but it’s still painfully “cringey” when I come. It is not fun and rather depressing.He Always Really … [Read more...] about This week in Savage Love: Cringe and purge
The flu virus Photo courtesy CDC Most of us at one time or another have had colds or the flu, and we are especially vulnerable during the cold and flu season. The symptoms -- fever, congestion, coughing, sore throat -- spread through offices, schools and homes, no matter where in the world we live. Colds and flu (influenza) are caused by viruses. Viruses are responsible for many other serious, often deadly, diseases including acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS), Ebola hemorrhagic fever, infectious hepatitis and herpes. How can viruses cause so much trouble? What makes us so vulnerable to them, and what makes them spread? In this article, we will explore the world of viruses. We'll talk about what a virus is, what viruses look like, how they infect us and how we can reduce the risk of infection. And you'll learn why you feel so miserable when a cold virus attacks your body! … [Read more...] about How Viruses Work